You know those times when all you want to do is lie on your couch, binge watching Netflix and have someone wait on you hand and foot without having to talk to ANYONE? yes that! THAT has been me for the past... hmmm I am going to say 2 weeks...
No... nothing major has happened in my life, sure I have had a pretty busy year but nothing exceptional, nothing earth shattering or out of the ordinary, just life with kids, my own business, keeping a house and a family alive!
For the past 2 weeks I have been totally distracted and switched off in fact I feel like I could crawl into bed right now and do that for the rest of the day! and you know what? I don't feel like thats ok.... despite working hard all year, despite being a pretty damn good mum most of the time, I am still giving myself a hard time about needing some downtime... WHY???? why are we, I am going to say as women, so freaking hard on ourselves?
Well I have decided to give myself permission, in fact I have just taken the liberty to do that, to take the time I need and as I stepped back into trying to do things today in a masculine way the Universe put me back on my bum so I am honouring this process and I would encourage you to as well if your finding these feelings arise, just take the time because if you don't you will be asked in a different way to slow down and it may not be as nice..... This has been a bit of a theme for me this year and I am finally starting to take notice, and this time thankfully I stopped before I got sick.
So off I go back to bed to rest and recuperate and get the much needed sleep and rest that I need so that I can be the woman the world needs me to be as this amazing year draws to a close and we hang on tight to the new beginnings and exciting times 2018 promises to bring. Much love xx
Ok so confession time - if you haven't already noticed at times I can get a little excited about new things that I am trying and I have a tendency to overshare (ha ha I can see my sister saying "REALLY?" lol) - I am also passionate about sharing things that work for me, so if that includes putting it out there that I have things like parasites and candida then I guess I am happy to do it!
The fact is that myself and my family have been waging war against these slippery little suckers for longer than I care to admit, we have spent $1000's on different therapies, pills, drugs and so much more to try and escape their clutches with minimal success, actually lets make that zero success. So recently when I had a facial analysis done to look for mineral imbalances (this is another story I will share!) and I was told that I am actually malnourished and deficient in pretty much every mineral except selenium I was about ready to scream!!!!
Anyone who knows me understands that my diet is pretty clean, I am not perfect but I understand nutrition and the importance of supplementation, to tell me I am malnourished hurts, and has lead me to the point of no return.
Funny how the universe works, as I reached this point I asked for help on a private forum to see if anyone had any (more!) suggestions to assist fighting parasites, I was led in a different direction to any I have taken before and THEN a friend contacted me that exact same night and told me how she needed to share her current parasite cleansing journey?!!! WHAT?!!! it was exactly what I had just been researching online.... So I have begun an inexpensive nothing to lose protocol. Perhaps a little unorthodox and maybe even sound a little loopy to some but you know what? I am already starting to feel different and its literally been 4 days. So I will keep you posted on how I go, I am also tackling these suckers from an energetic / kinesiology perspective to make sure once they are gone they don't get a chance to come back again! I will be using a couple of different ways to determine when I am rid of these and one will be the original medical testing we had done, another to test the candida will be a simple "spit test". See below for my first video of my parasite fighting journey with the Pure Gum oil protocol.
If you would like to try this protocol and would like some support from someone else doing it please let me know I would be happy to stay in touch!
Yours in creating parasitic & candida change!!!!
PS here is a link to a youtube I listened to by Dr. Jennifer Daniels and her website is drjenniferdaniels.com/about-me/ she has a free download for her candida cleanse.
PPS here is a quick tutorial on how to test yourself for candida - the spit test!
This is the 3rd instalment of my balance journey, I am not going to lie it felt a little scary to put this out, there is an element of vulnerability when you do this kind of work and that can be a little confronting when your sharing it with the world! I have to say magic has begun to happen post-balance for me but I will keep that for another post, I hope you enjoy this video, its a long one but it will give you an interesting insight into the world of kinesiology I hope!
Yours in Co-Creating Change,
I have been surprised at the stretch this has been for me, firstly to do and now to share this journey with you. My initial resistance was around starting and now its been around putting it out there... There is a certain vulnerability in sharing this type of information and I am always in awe of how my clients so openly share with me in our sessions and now am moved to deep gratitude for that openness.
In my last blog post I mentioned that its time for me to get clear on a few things and to start being real in my authenticity of who I really am, its so easy to get swayed in this chaotic life that sometimes is, slowing down, breathing deeply and connecting back to our highest self and purpose can be a challenge.
As promised I have documented this path of change that I am about to make, this first video delves into the stuff behind what I am wanting to achieve, it goes into the why, what, how and when of this process. I hope you enjoy, its often easier to get to these deeper levels with some facilitation, but I think I did ok! It’s a bit of a long one so grab a cuppa if your interested and take a seat…. This process is called the Meta Model process and the questions are designed to dig deep to the core reasons behind the changes they are wanting to make in their lives.
It also ensures to uncover any areas that these changes are not ecological for that person in their life, and to highlight any unwanted patterns of language or thought. I do this process with all of my clients and sometimes the healing can come just in the simple discussion - such is the power of NLP processes....
Interestingly as soon as I did this process things started shifting, I didn’t dive straight into my balance which we usually do but the awareness that has come from simply delving into the issues at hand things have already started to shift.
These shifts so far have been subtle but impactful – a change in diet, some extra advice and help from others that will be useful on my journey, an action group magically appearing to help me stay accountable to the changes I want to make…. Some lovely reminders of who I am not anymore and who I no longer want to be, always good to have the reminders!
Anyways here I am sharing with you my wish for change I hope you enjoy!
There comes a time when you just need a to look at life with a fresh set of eyes, almost like an internal life audit to take stock of where I am at and how I am feeling, what could be improved and what areas are going well?
I feel like life passes me by at times.... between work, kids, partnerships, friendships, and family life just passes by and I get a little lost as an individual within the whirlwind! Don’t get me wrong each of these things are important to me and a huge part of who I am but its not everything, there is more, so much more and often I don’t get to explore what that means anymore….
Who am I when I am not being Mum, kinesiologist, teacher, daughter, sister, partner, friend?
What do I like to do?
What makes my heart sing?
How can I be more fully present in my own life to my own needs, desires and wants?
These are all things that I am feeling the call to answer, to sit with and to refill my cup in ways that are ecological for my soul as well as for the wellbeing of my family and community.
I have a tendency to be swept up in everyone else’s plans and what they like to do that I often miss my own inner yearnings and then this results in me feeling restless, unsettled and sometimes just downright cranky, not to mention the physical toll it takes on me when I am not in flow with the different parts of life.
The ironic thing about this situation is that I have all the tools for change literally at my fingertips, however like the plumber who never gets to his own plumbing or the carpenter who lives in his own half-finished home I rarely take the time to focus on my own situation and life to fully explore and put into practice my own tools!
As the centre of my family (yes as women we all are!) this impacts not only on my man, but also on my kids so if I am “out of whack” then so are they, so realistically I owe it to all of us to get this sorted, for a more harmonious and happy household all around.
So here is my commitment – to myself and to you – I am going to document my journey – exploring these facets with the help of kinesiology along with the more practical aspects of balancing the healthy lifestyle I aspire to whilst still managing to run my business and a semi-functioning household, and all the other demands on my time and physical being.
In this quest I hope to show you the different aspects that kinesiology can help unlock on a personal journey, while also improving my own balance and ecology which is somewhat out of whack at the moment.
These are the general steps I intend to take and will share each step of the way with you!
Step 1 – Identify what it is that I need to work with, what I am feeling and how I want to feel instead. Specific, measurable outcomes that I can share with you and that will make a real difference to my life and visible for those around me and you to see!
Step 2. After completing a full inventory, prioritise what is most urgent through muscle testing so that I am working with the most relevant issues to me.
Step 3. Set the intention which becomes an affirmation for the balance.
Step 4. Balance myself – yes that’s possible! And as it’s a pretty full on list I anticipate it may take a few balances to get me to a clearer space.
Step 5. Report back regularly on what I am feeling, seeing, doing and experiencing!
That’s it! So stay tuned if your keen to see how kinesiology can impact on lives in a positive and often surprising ways!
Mothers day.....For a long time it inspired thoughts of sleep-ins, breakfast in bed, lots of cuddles and lovely floral wrapped gifts. The reality for me and I would say a lot of Mum’s I know is quite different and I am continually surprised at how stirred up I feel when these days are approaching and arrive.
One part of me rebukes the consumerism and commercialism attached to not only Mothers Day but to Valentines Day, Easter and even Christmas but another part of me honours that traditions are important, marking special occasions is what makes us human, brings us together as families and I believe taking time to honour our roles as parents with Mothers and Fathers Day feels important as well. So I wonder how I can change my experience of these days so that my expectations are understood and in some way met?
One very simple way I think is to work out what I am actually wanting from this day and for me its really quite simple – its not about gifts, its about an acknowledgement of the work I do as a Mum day in and day out, yes a nice breakfast in bed or perhaps the dishes to be done and just some of the every day tasks handled instead of me having to do it all. Spending time together as a family doing something fun where I don’t have to pack a lunch and a million other things before we head off!
When I look at these things I realize they are in alignment with what I know to be my primary love languages. If you don’t know about Love Languages look them up! http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
They are ways in which we both demonstrate our love to others and how we in turn feel loved and they can be a very handy way to open the communication lines when you feel there is a mismatch in relationships not only with partners but with kids and other loved ones.
My primary love language’s are “Acts of Service” and “Quality Time” so it makes sense that having these met in the sense of receiving would help me feel fulfilled.
There are 3 others languages which include “Receiving Gifts”, “Physical Touch” and “Words of Affirmation”.
My partners love language is “Words of Affirmation” and he is so good at giving me that, but because of my filter they don’t land for me as love, they fall short as lip service, and all he craves from me is exactly that which feels foreign and almost fake to me because I don’t value it! Once when I mentioned Quality Time to him he actually had no idea literally about what I was saying, it was such a foreign concept to him! So you can see how if we are miscommunicating with how we send and receive love then there can be a breakdown in feeling loved in a relationship and hence often expectations are not met on these special occasions where all we want to feel is honoured and loved.
The way we usually get around this is to communicate more clearly and this is something that is always a work in progress for me. I think in general women sometimes shy away from saying exactly what they want. Deep down we just want to be understood and to have our partners and loved ones to “get” what we want and then do it, but sadly unless our love languages match up, its not likely that this will happen.
What I also know is that my partner will do absolutely anything to make me happy, I just have to know what that is and then ask for it! And I can almost guarantee your men will be the same. The lesson for me this Mothers Day is to be clear within myself what I want and then to clearly ask for it. No convoluted messages or hints, just straight out expressing my wishes. If I then don’t get these expectations met, that’s when I can get annoyed but if I am expecting my partner and kids to be mind readers then sadly I will be left once again with unmet expectations.
Speak your truth ladies and men, life flows so much better!!! Do you struggle with knowing exactly what you want? If you do know do you have a problem expressing this? If you would like to get clearer on these things perhaps Kinesiology could help!
I am interested to hear if you struggle with days like Mothers Day? Or perhaps your partner and kids have you dialled? Have you heard of love languages before and do you feel there are relevant to you and your relationships?
There is a lot around about this concept of being in a state of gratitude and I must admit I drift in and out quite frequently, my kids and I do our “grateful list” each morning in the car and I love what comes up although lately it has started to feel a little forced and rehearsed so we decided to start becoming more conscious with this process and last night we watched a documentary called “Living on one Dollar” http://livingonone.org/.
This is to be the first in a series of documentaries we are diving into not only for my own reminder of just how much we really have in this world but to begin educating our kids (7, 5 & 18 months) on just how lucky we are to be living in such a wonderful country and with all of the luxuries we enjoy.
The documentary was about 4 friends who decided to not only study the effect of extreme poverty but to walk 56 days in the shoes of those who are living below the poverty line on $1 a day. They travel to Guatemala and join a small community, renting a place, starting a business and surviving each on $1 a day.
The conversation sparked by this simple but profound film in our eldest sons was beautiful and has prompted an awareness in them about just how much we consume and spend on a daily basis, they are actively enquiring about food costs and also what we pay for bills, and fuel and other “essentials”. I feel like beginning these conversations now is growing an awareness in them at an early age of different realities as well as an appreciation for all that we have.
Why do I feel the need to embrace and embody gratitude more fully in our lives? When in a state of gratitude, true gratitude for the world around us its shifting our brains out of the state of not having enough, to being enough. To focus on the positives rather than the negatives which in an increasingly consumer driven world is a refreshing place to be. Gratitude has been attributed to so much more as well! Including physical and mental health, sleeping better, enhancing social skills and relationships – the list is truly endless.
Other ways we try to keep life a little more simple and less stressful as a family in our household is by deliberately not having a TV. Its been a conscious decision that was aided by the fact that when we moved to our new home 2 and a half years ago we couldn’t get our antenna to work. We still physically have a TV for watching the occasional DVD and the kids engage in other forms of screens such as iPad and a computer but I find a massive difference when we do watch TV in how much more they “want” and it’s a huge testament to the power of advertising not only on small children but on us as adults as well. The reduction in that pressure of advertising from TV is huge, I also don’t actively listen to the news, occasionally I will catch it on the radio if I am listening in the car, but I don’t deliberately go out of my way to know what is happening in the world, which may be viewed as irresponsible by some but to me I notice the direct influence it has on my moods, when I do and when I don’t listen so sometimes I simply switch it off.
I find these simple measures make a huge difference in our attitudes to life as a family on a daily basis, not saying we have it all figured out but being open and conscious of these as factors that influence mood and overall state of mind and being is definitely assisting us in moving forward in a way that feels sustainable. I hope that our children will be empowered to feel their way into what works for them as they grow older and I hope they eventually appreciate why we do what we do.
Do you have a gratitude practice? What ways do you introduce this to your family? I would love to hear how!
Ever had that feeling in your gut that you just shouldn’t be doing something? What happened? Did you act on it? Or maybe you ignored it – just like us this past week….
Sadly we were right in the heart of the raging floods that swept through South-East Qld and Northern NSW here in Australia. Houses were devastated, lives were lost and people are still recovering. Our property was hit with the full force of the Albert River breaking its banks and reaching an all time high. Thankfully our houses were spared but some vital machinery to my partners business and 3 of our sheep were lost in the raging river waters.
There is nothing like a dreary damp day to dredge up all of those down feelings and when there have been a few days in a row it can really impact on your performance and state of mind. We have just had some beautiful, much needed rain over the last 4 days but its getting to the stage where I am missing my sunshine and have noticed not just my own mood being a little on the low side but also that of my family and partner. So I decided to shake things up a bit and this is what we have done to help shift those sads to smiles :)
Hey there Paige here! I am passionate about helping people create positive change in their lives, whether that be physical health, emotional wellbeing or achieving your dreams its all within our reach! I am a mum of 3 little boys, entrepreneur and lover of all things natural, nurturing and fun! I hope to learn more about you as well!